In a world filled with men giving unsolicited advice to single women on how to snag a man, it was refreshing to hear practical, empowering things women can do to make sure the guy is right.Sapp's 11th solo album that hit stores on Friday and already has a hit single at No.14 on the Billboard Gospel Songs list.But the 50-year-old is most known for his powerful hit “Never Would Have Made It”, which spent a record 46 weeks at No. "Never, ever give covenant commitment to non-covenant relationships," Sapp told ESSENCE.When my sons, Jacob and Isaac, were just 3 and 1, my husband and I separated."Newly divorced and single moms and dads do have to be kind to themselves and allow for less structure, but you can't let it all go and turn into a roommate instead of a parent," says Neuman. I didn't have the time or energy to stress over some of the finer points of household management like I did when there was another adult helping out -- but at the same time, my kids needed structure and the sense of security it provides, now more than ever.So I began to really focus on figuring out what mattered and what didn't.It's easy to fake it electronically."It's absolutely critical that you take the high road and don't bad-mouth your ex in front of the kids," says Susan Bartell, Psy D, author of Mommy or Daddy: Whose Side Am I On?Whatever his flaws, your kids love their dad with all their heart.
Gary Neuman, Parents advisor and author of Helping Your Child Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.But no matter how right I felt I was, deep down in my heart I knew: Being in constant fight mode was horrible for my kids, and it was making me even more miserable."You have an obligation to your kids to stay friendly -- or at least civil -- with your former spouse," says Neuman. So, I tried my hardest and used the greatest gift to divorced parents everywhere: e-mail.You can say "I know it's hard that Dad couldn't come again this Wednesday," but leave out the "That jerk has always been irresponsible! As if this advice isn't tough enough to follow, you've also got to keep yourself from making negative comments to your friends, mother, or next-door neighbor if there's even a chance that you'll be overheard by your kid.A sleeping child has a way of appearing out of thin air -- just when you're cursing out his dad.