We see it in celebrity culture – the Kardashian/Jenner clan and Will Smith’s family for instance.
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
“Not a lot of guys are interested in women with kids, you know.” Interested in getting to know someone on a second date?
“My ex has a lot of issues so I really want to get married so my daughter has a new mom.” 12.
If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. This shows interest in one of the most important things in her life. Sounds cliche’, but I always appreciate it when a guy goes on about how much he adores his niece, or spends time with a friend’s baby. This isn’t necessary, and especially after you have been involved for a while you will likely sort out the who-pays-when conundrum. But she wants to feel like you’re interested in her in every part of her womanhood — including motherhood. If it has been more than a few months, or things get very serious very quickly, and she hasn’t brought up introducing the kids, bring it up.
Plus, it tells her (and any other woman, for that matter) that she was your Plan B for the evening. But if you really want to see her, give her plenty of time to sort out her schedule. In fact, if you DON’T appear interested in her family she’ll think that you’re not into kids. When a guy laughs at my funny-kid story, or is sympathetic about my mom worries, I’m in. But if you tend to take turns picking up the bill, but she sometimes rearranges her life to get out of the house and pays for a babysitter so she can spend time with you, acknowledge that. Know that when she invites you over, it is more work for her than when you invite her over.