Thank you for all of your clear and concise thoughts over the last few years.
I have definitely taken things to heart: look for boyfriend behavior; there is a natural timeline where commitment should come by month three, “I love you” around 6 months, living together at 18, engaged at 2-3 years; men do what they want, and so many other pearls.
He is great at communicating his feelings to me, and although we’ve never had the “relationship talk” I’ve never felt the need to have it because he shows all the signs of a great boyfriend.
I think he wants that too, but I don’t know if 4 months is too early to expect that of him because he needs to move slower than a childless man.I have learned so much about what it means to be in a giving relationship in these four months, and he has been such a remarkable teacher of that. I think it’s always instructive for women to hear from other women that, despite all the frustrations you’ve had with dating and relationships prior to today, you don’t believe that “men” are the problem, and that, in fact, in this one instance, your boyfriend’s ex-wife was the weak link.But, I want more at this point, and I don’t know if it’s a simple case of needing to be more patient to let things grow organically…if I just need to see things as they are and say that my needs aren’t being met and re-evaluate. This is far more common than we see here – specifically because most of the questions I post are from women complaining about men.I have been dating a wonderful man for about four months now.We’ve known each other almost 20 years prior to dating, and the transition to an amorous relationship was easy and natural.