As with so much, Mormonism exaggerates things already there in the culture rather than making them from scratch.
A male colleague, in discussing dating culture among Mormons and the general scene in the U. told me that what he has seen among students at BYU and other universities leads him to believe that BYU and Mormonism in general put a particular spin on what has, by this point, developed into new cultural and generational (and class specific) norms.
It seems to me that even just making friends is a challenge for people these days . It seems my son’s friends aren’t that into dating for the most part. Agreed that lots of people think it’s not worth the effort.
At his age, I was pretty much making out whenever I got the chance. Take away the possibility of getting laid, and most introverts don’t want to bother.
One friend observed that in her experience, such dry spells aren’t “uncommon in LDS circles, but *very* uncommon in secular/regular life [but see below].
And Mormons are by no means the only ones to date-to-marry.As a borderline narcissistic introvert, you might be surprised to learn that I have friends, even friends from many different lands (states) and persuasions. Of course the rest of you won’t be surprised at all. Here, in no particular sequence of topics, are some observations from students, friends, and neighbors on dating culture among Mormons, and sometimes, others.One friend observed that the experience of two relatives suggests that serious relationships among singles are drying up.Ever since various general authorities started drawing attention to the dating scene among Young Adults, I’ve taken an interest in the current status of dating, especially among LDS people, but also in general.I’ve polled my students about it occasionally and also my friends, single and not.